Our emotions are just that …ours


As some of you will know… for a week in February I was privileged to be part of a Meditation Teacher Training cohort with Iuna Meditation. What an amazing experience! There were 7 of us doing the course together and a number of other people who’d done the course previously dipping in and out of the week.

Each day we learnt an element of the ‘Introduction to Effortless Meditation’ (which we then delivered to the rest of the group the following day), we also did two 32 minute Tibetan gong meditations as part of each day… so not only were we learning material and talking about what might come up for people when they start to meditate, but we were also getting the opportunity to go deeper with our own meditation and to release some of our own baggage in order to ‘clear’ ourselves to be better teachers.

One of the main learnings the week has reinforced for me is this idea that whenever we react to something, whether that be by getting angry, getting upset, being scared, or another emotional response… it’s not about the other person, it’s about us. This wasn’t a new concept to me and I’d previously considered it quite a lot when reading about ‘total responsibility’ in Joe Vitale’s Zero Limits. I consider it closely linked with ‘the law of attraction’ – the principle of ‘our thoughts create our existence’ – whatever we think about and focus on that’s what we draw into our lives.

So, what I now understand is that when we’re born, we are born ‘clear’ i.e. there is nothing between the reservoir of love, joy, creativity, inner peace, energy, etc. which resides within each of us and our conscious thinking and actions. As we journey through life, interacting with others and living life, if we experience particularly traumatic experiences or have repeated experiences, we collect impressions or patterns of tension which we carry with us. These are effectively blockages between our conscious thinking and all the qualities at our core. It is this stuff which triggers us… which makes us upset, angry, scared, etc. when others say and do things.

What meditation does is ‘clear’ us – dissipating those patterns of tension, those impressions …opening up a channel for us to receive more of the good stuff which means that instead of reacting we can respond.  Instead of getting angry or upset with another person, we recognise it’s not about them it’s about us and take responsibility (responsibility = the ability to respond!) for clearing ourselves.

As the Teacher Training week progressed I noticed us as a group and myself personally shift from being triggered by other people, to taking responsibility and knowing that each trigger was a message to us that there was something there we personally needed to clear… it was incredibly powerful to witness.  As we each took responsibility for ourselves and our own baggage, we became more accepting of those around us.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying I no longer get triggered… of course I do… (I look forward to the day I reach enlightenment and can remain serene and calm whatever is going on around me!) …but as I meditate more I can see myself moving towards responding more and reacting less – what a wonderful gift!


  • What are your thoughts on the idea that whatever shows up in your life you brought into existence?
  • How do you recognise your triggers?
  • I know that meditation is just one tool for ‘clearing’ …what helps you to release the ‘baggage’, the impressions, the patterns of tension you hold?

I’d love to hear your thoughts… either by leaving a comment here or on twitter @ThePensiveCoach


About Jo Royle

passionate learner, eternal optimist, lover of real conversations, proud mum, frustrated traveller, (previously!) wannabe blogger, serial career changer, meditation teacher, coach & facilitator
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